Sunday, November 13, 2011

A Letter To My Accountability Partner

Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 9:40 PM 1 comments
Dear Cyber Sister,

Well I have also done a little soul searching. Ok, a lot of soul searching! This is what I came up with:

1. After I completed the 30 day email coaching program with Shayla Smart, I fell back into procrastination mode.
2. I became doubtful of myself and my ability to accomplish my goals.
3. I allowed fear of being unsuccessful to take over my thoughts.

So, now that I know these three things, what have I done to change them??? Well, I connected with Tamyka Washington and signed up for coaching services through Compass which is the company that she is a representative for. There is still a lot of personal development that I need and it's time for me to invest in me (within the budget of course)!!

I am also going to try to dedicate at least 1 hour a day for developing G.O.A.L. Model Enterprises. This is where the jars decision comes into play. I realized that I have been hiding behind my crafts because I am or was afraid to put in the necessary work to get G.O.A.L. Model up and running. I was feeling like if I focused on the crafts, that I would "magically" realize that being a crafter is what God has intended for me to do and the vision of G.O.A.L. Model would vanish. I can't shake G.O.A.L. Model. It's not going anywhere. There is at least one female out there who needs the services that I have to offer as a G.O.A.L. Model and I can not let her down. When I leave my comfy position as a teacher, it is a must that I step into a position that will allow me to serve God and live out his will for me. Crafting is a new found hobby that I just happen to be very good at. Motivating and empowering women is my passion. My success may not come through financial gains but if I can't reach hundreds or thousands of women and help them identify their purpose in life, then I will indeed be rich!...

...This felt liberating! It's always good to look in the mirror and reflect on who you see. My vision just got a little more clearer. God is definitely listening.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

I Confess...I Missed Me!

Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 8:00 PM 0 comments
Well if you haven't noticed, I haven't updated my blog since August! I returned to work (I am a full-time teacher) and immediately got thrown into a different world. I had to move to a new school and it was indeed a challenge in the beginning, however, I have conquered bigger challenges before, this one was no different. This was only a minor bridge to cross compared to others. So for the past few weeks, I have been getting myself and my children back into school mode. I am also a part-time graduate student, and I must admit that the classes ain't gettin' no easier! My "Motivation Tank" is half empty and I need me to get myself motivated!!!

Sounds cocky, huh? Not at all!

See, as I share my personal thoughts, dreams, goals, trials, and challenges with you, I also become empowered, inspired, and motivated by my words. In my attempt to help you Get Optimistic About Life (G.O.A.L.), I have to remind myself that I also need to Get Optimistic About Life. I have to read my own posts for encouragement. I have to reflect on my own words and empower myself in order to continue on my journey to empower other women.

So I need Me to stay focused on my vision. I need Me to stay dedicated to this blog. I missed Me! But I'm glad I'm back!

Friday, August 26, 2011

FREEDOM FRIDAY: Do I Have To Go Back To Work????

Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 9:28 PM 3 comments
Today is the last Friday of my summer. I will return to my classroom on Monday and begin preparing for the new school year. This has been my routine for the past five years. The only thing different is I will begin this school year knowing that by the end of the year, I will have accomplished several small goals that will lead me to my ultimate goal of being a Certified Professional Life Coach. I have already started manifesting positive things and attracting positive people in my life. I can only imagine what else God has in store for me as I create my own lane in the Universe.
The past two weeks have been a blessing to me, as well as confirmation that I am on the right track with my vision. I have transformed myself into a sponge, soaking in any information that I can along the way. I have become transparent, so that others may shine their light on me and through me. I am Getting Optimistic About Life and MODELING how to do it for others.

I. Am. A. G.O.A.L. Model...And my runway is bigger than the Universe!!

Friday, August 19, 2011

FREEDOM FRIDAY: Why I Refuse To Buy Another Pull-Up!

Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 12:56 PM 3 comments
I decided to do something a little different on Fridays. Instead of focusing on motivating, empowering, etc., I'm going to give you all an even closer look at my journey by blogging about things in my personal life that effect me from day to day. I know that I have followers from all walks of life, and sometimes we just need somebody to understand what we go through. So, Freedom Fridays will be dedicated to giving my followers a glance into my world as Wife, Mom, Teacher, Sister, Aunt, Friend, and G.O.A.L. Model! Enjoy!

I absolutely REFUSE to buy another Pull-Up! While on my journey to GREATNESS, I have to stop every 20-30 minutes to make sure that my 2 year old son goes to the potty. (Yes, G.O.A.L. Models have to potty train the kids also)! He actually does really well when I allow him to run around without any underwear on and he does well WITH underwear on. However, when I put a Pull-Up on him, he still pees in it as if he has on a pamper. Go Figure... He doesn't even attempt to pull the Pull-Up up or down. It's still just a "pee and poop" holder to him. And now that I think about this potty training gig, I never purchased Pull-Ups for either of my daughters when they were being potty trained. So obviously, consistency, patience, and a good ol' pair of underpants works just fine and costs less too!

In essence, as I continue on my journey to GREATNESS, there was actually one thing that I realized about potty training that will definitely help me along the way.

G.O.A.L. Model Tip:

Don't be afraid to revisit and revise your goals! Even though we won't be participating in the Pull-Ups Club anymore, the ultimate goal is for him to be potty trained and there is definitely more than one way to accomplish this goal!


Thursday, August 11, 2011


Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 1:49 PM 1 comments
When I sit back and think of words that describe who I am, I always come up with the same set of words. Motivation. Inspiration. Encourager. My natural talents include motivating, inspiring, encouraging, as well as giving advice and my personal opinion based on my life experiences. More recently, I realized that I needed to add life coaching to my list of natural talents because according to several different definitions of what a life coach is, I definitely fall into that category as well.

Now that I have a basic understanding of who I am and what I love to naturally do, my goal or vision is to create my own lane in this Universe doing exactly what God has given me the talent to do. The next step in this process will be for me to set goals for myself and actually start writing out the details for how my vision will become a reality.

This step is a challenge for me because I have an extremely difficult time focusing on one thing. I start with an idea, I get excited about it, and nothing happens. I get unmotivated. I become uninspired. I lose all self-encouragement. I push the idea to the back of my mind and go back to my comfortable little space of reality. But when I get texts, phone calls, emails from friends and family needing that extra push, I'm there full speed ahead. I do an excellent job at getting people to keep it moving. I just need someone to return the favor every now and then...

So I am seriously looking for an accountability partner. I need someone to motivate me. I need someone to inspire me. I need some one to keep me encouraged. I need those text messages, emails, and occasional phone calls to ask where I am in my journey. I can handle reality. I don't need sugar-coated words of wisdom. I need somebody who will be dedicated to holding me accountable for making my vision a reality.

Is it you???

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Hello God

Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 3:07 PM 5 comments
While sitting at my computer desk this morning, I decided to start writing a daily note to God. I felt the need to focus on 5 things each day that I need God to help me with. I believe that when positive is released into the Universe, positive finds its way back to you. I also believe that there is nothing, not even a Universe, without God. So I’ll write to God each day, and then read it aloud to the Universe. This is what I came up with. Please feel free to modify it to suit your personal needs. Please feel free to share with others.

Hello God,

I love you.
I worship you.
I adore you.

Matthew 7:7 states: Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.
Matthew 8 states: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.

I believe in these words so please hear me Lord.

I need you to help me ___________________________________.
I need you to help me ___________________________________.
I need you to help me ___________________________________.
I need you to help me ___________________________________.
I need you to help me ___________________________________.

Thank you in advance!

Please continue to guide me down the path that you have created for me.

I am ready to receive into my circle the people that you have created for me to connect with.

I understand that some people are only in my life for a season, so I am ready to eliminate the relationships that are not good for me at this time.

I embrace and welcome your presence in my life!



Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Who is G.O.A.L. Model Metra?

Posted by Sharmetra, The Mother and Daughter Relationship Renovator at 5:50 PM 6 comments
I confess... I have 3 children by 3 different men. Blessifully, (I think I just made that word up) God placed a man in my life that is able to bring a healthy balance to my crazy, dysfunctional, unorganized life. I, like many other women, have a story. My testimony. Please allow me to share.

I became a mom at the age of 20. It was my junior year of college. I managed to beat the odds and graduated a semester later than my expected graduation date. My relationship was not healthy at all. My boyfriend was a drug addict and a drug dealer with a very bad temper. I knew (like most women) that if I showed him that I loved him, then he would change. Didn't happen. He went in and out of jail. The relationship got worse, I had finally reached my breaking point, and decided that I didn't need him. It was me and my baby against the world. (On a Hardee's budget)!

My next boyfriend was different. Very attentive to me and my daughter. But he lacked one major characteristic...the desire to WORK!!! And on top of that, he was a serial burglar. So again, another one that stayed in and out of jail. Oh, I forgot, to mention, that one month after I graduated, I became pregnant with baby number two! I also got my first apartment in the projects, so of course he's got to change now right? We have a baby on the way and our own apartment, so he has to get a job now. Didn't happen. He went to jail when I was three months pregnant and was sentenced to two years in prison. Great. I'm a "ride or die chick" so I don't mind traveling to the prison to see my baby daddy. And then reality kicks me in the head.
I got tired of being alone. So I moved on. With two kids and two fathers in jail.

Then came "Mr. Man". He was a drug dealer with a nice car! He paid my $100 rent and even let me drive his car! I've hit the jackpot now!!! Nope! Long story short, I got pregnant, had an abortion (don't judge me), and got out of that sad, so-called relationship too! Lonely again. With two kids and a wounded soul.

At this point, I didn't know what to do. I always felt as if I needed a man to complete me. I remember a co-worker asking me what I wanted in a man. I couldn't answer that because I was cool with just having a man. She told me to write down all the characteristics that I wanted in a man. Then write a letter to God telling him what I wanted. Put both papers in the Bible, pray, and be patient. I did it. What did I have to lose?

After writing to God, I dated for two years but refused to force myself into a relationship until God sent me the man that he wanted me to be with. And he did! I have been with my husband, Kenny for 6 years. We have been married for 3 years and God blessed us with our last child one month after the wedding! So we have 2 beautiful daughters and a handsome son!

Through all of my obstacles, I learned that I didn't need a man to complete me. I had to complete myself first. Then God would send someone who would be a healthy balance in my life. And I balance my husband's life as well. We are a team striving to be a happy, healthy, and wealthy family.

I confess... I'm not an expert at getting optimistic about life. In fact, I'm still a work in progress. I am on a journey to "figure out what I want to be when I grow up". I am thinking, speaking, claiming, and working on achieving my happy space in the Universe... But there's more to me than this blog. I am a wife that is striving to be the best wife that I can be. I am a mother of 3 that is striving to be the best mother that I can be. I'm designing my own lane in the Universe because I just don't fit into any other lanes that have already been created. I'm being the best me that I can be. And I'm dedicated to helping you be the best you that you can be.

So, let's go on this journey together. Allow me to empower you. Allow me to motivate you. Allow me to inspire you. And I will allow you to do the same for me. That is what being a G.O.A.L. Model is all about! Getting Optimistic About Life and modeling for others how life is supposed to be.

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